Dating nice guy but not attracted
I think it's fine to wait and see if he is willing to take the risk to ask you out. And once you start loving a man, truly loving him in the fullness of marriage, they become even less important.No need to feel like it's your job to move the relationship in that direction — it's his. It's my hope that single believers are holding both looks and personality lightly enough to weigh character. And where the character is godly and sound, there's at least the possibility that attraction will grow.He wants to call and write letters, but I've been holding off because I'm not sure if I want to encourage deepening our communication at this point.This is one of those occasions where the buddy relationship didn't involve a romantically interested girl and an oblivious guy; instead, I think he has liked me all along, but I was completely oblivious.I could count on my fingers the number of times I've touched this guy in the three years I've known him, and trying to transition my thoughts from viewing him as a brother in Christ to a potential husband is difficult.
Their counsel resembles that of the foolish woman in Proverbs.
(For my part, I grew my very short hair long, lost 25 pounds, and traded my power clothes for a more feminine wardrobe.
(I talk more about that here.) But he too talks about feeling utterly comfortable talking with me and the vast shared interests we had and common faith and similar sense of calling.
Before I found Boundless, I had already started a "buddy" relationship with one of my best guy friends.
He moved across the country several months ago, but we still talk through email almost every day.