Im mexican dating a white girl
The way he loved Maricruz in those final episodes (she was pregnant, if you remember) made me think that “one day, I will have my own papi too.” And I did. He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named and You-Know-Who made me believe in the goodness of men. It’s “I like you” or “I don’t like you.” And yes, asking a Mexican man if you look fat in that dress will always end in a Greek tragedy. When I came to Argentina, I started eating Doritos with a power hot sauce all over it and my friends were like, “Doritos with hot sauce? ” I smiled and whispered to myself, “the Mexicans.” A bottle of hot sauce will always serve as their icon. But let me tell you that it never ends bad with Mexicans — ending a relationship with them is always a good note, regardless of what you’ve been through.
But it's not only about where and how it started; it may not even be right to think it started from any one place.But I've never dated someone of my own ethnicity: Mexican. And I would say Colombian, but that courtship never blossomed into much after he came over my house and serenaded me with his acoustic guitar. Time and again, after being introduced to a black guy I was dating, my mother either let out heavy sighs or foretold my future under her breath. My dad used his seasonal, strictly temporary passport for work and came to Arizona to pick fruit."You're going to end up pregnant before you're married," she once said. But my grandfather—my mother's father—wasn't too fond of my dad. Then came Fernando Sucre (Amaury Nolasco) from Prison Break. At the time, my country (the Philippines) have adapted a lot of telenovelas from Mexico and I only relied on Thalia’s Fernando Jose as an icon on the undying Maria Mercedes series.Those "stories" tell of black men leaving their women, and of black men being promiscuous and violent. While problematic, my parents' thinking was the thinking of their time.And, really, it roots deeper than my parents, my grandparents, and their parents before them. My first love was Gael Garcia-Bernal with his powerful portrayal of Che Guevara in the Motorcycle Diaries movie.It may look like they’re just randomly mixing stuff in a bowl but in reality, they are really brewing perfection. And when you try to ask for the recipe, they don’t have it. Why they include the guacamole’s seed is another mystery. They always want to know what’s in the food they eat. Sometimes, I come to think, “do Mexican men ever lie to women? They can even say a bad word and it will sound good to you. I am trying to move forward.” They will obey by letting you be and not talking to you. You will always be that special girl in their life.This week, we're publishing some of those responses as part of a conversation about race and relationships.Thirteen years of dating boys outside my race and it took sitting down to write this essay to have the first, real conversation with my parents about interracial dating.