Dating and kissing advice
A 38-year-old married woman put it this way: “The first time my now-husband kissed me, he licked my face, kind of like a dog. Believe me, I thought twice about ever seeing this guy again…I still tease him about it today by calling him ‘puppy lips.’” So there are two lessons to this story: Originality isn’t always a good thing when it comes to first kisses, but—if there’s enough of a connection there—even the worst of first kisses can be forgiven.Instead, go for something sexier and more spontaneous.Says Missy Barcic, of New Vernon, NJ: “A first kiss has to have something that’s dynamic to it. That’s passion.” And creativity earns bonus points, too.“After our third date, we stayed up talking until 4 a.m., and still no kiss! “So at the very beginning of our fourth date, I walked into his apartment, and instead of saying, ‘Hello,’ I kissed him and we wound up making out for hours.Sometimes I wonder if I hadn’t given him that first kiss if we’d even be together today.
So much hangs in the balance: Will your date like how you kiss? Does this person even want to lock lips with you in the first place?As a sexuality educator, I’ve helped thousands of singles and couples navigate this tricky first-kiss terrain.And don’t worry, there are plenty of ways to pull it off with ease while letting your date know there’s plenty more where that came from.There is nothing sinful about the activity of kissing or cuddling, depending upon the definition one gives to these words.When is it okay and when is it something that becomes unhealthy?If a guy plunges his tongue in my mouth and spreads saliva all around my mouth, I tell him that I have to be at work early in the morning to cut things short.” Super-deep kissing communicates that you’re overeager, which can convince someone to put on the brakes.Give the recipient some air—that way, your sweetie will be raring for more.A real gentleman wouldn’t mind this and would appreciate your prudence. In short, by now you know that deciding to kiss a guy on the first date is completely up to you.If you feel that it will go well, then take a chance but know your boundaries. Remember that either decision is the right decision so long as you're comfortable with it.“The one time I kissed a guy for the first time I made sure to pull away after a few seconds,” recalls one woman. If we hadn’t hit pause, I would never have known whether he was just kissing me to not be rude.” While a standard first kiss can be great, the men and women I’ve spoken with always remember — longingly — the ones that had an extra maneuver that heightened the romance factor.“It was great, since it gave me a second to look into his eyes and silently ask, ‘Is this okay? Usually, these are little moves that ramp up the kiss’s sensuality.